Did Jesus use agape and phileo differently when He asked Peter "lovest thou me" in John 21?

Whosoever Will, Agapaō: The Word That Doesn't Mean What You Think It Means: For generations, the standard sermon has been that Jesus asked twice with the high word agapaō and Peter answered with the lower word phileō. Finally Jesus condescended to Peter's level and used phileō Himself, which broke Peter's heart. It is a preachable sermon. It is also, in the judgment of much careful Greek scholarship, more sermon than text. John, writing in Greek, often uses near-synonyms interchangeably for stylistic variation, and in this very passage he also alternates between two different verbs for feed and tend (boskō and poimainō) and two different words for sheep (arnia and probata), with no one preaching that those distinctions carry deep theological weight. The alternation looks like Johannine style, not lexical theology. The pastoral force of the passage is real. Three denials, three restorations. A grieved disciple, a restoring Lord. That weight does not need the agapē / phileō distinction to land. The text is heavy enough on its own. Scripture, King James Version: John 21:15-17, "So when they had dined, Jesus saith to Simon Peter, Simon, son of Jonas, lovest thou me more than these? He saith unto him, Yea, Lord; thou knowest that I love thee. He saith unto him, Feed my lambs. He saith to him again the second time, Simon, son of Jonas, lovest thou me? He saith unto him, Yea, Lord; thou knowest that I love thee. He saith unto him, Feed my sheep. He saith unto him the third time, Simon, son of Jonas, lovest thou me? Peter was grieved because he said unto him the third time, Lovest thou me? And he said unto him, Lord, thou knowest all things; thou knowest that I love thee. Jesus saith unto him, Feed my sheep.".

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